How to Have Victorious Relationships This Valentine's Day and Every Day

Candice Smithyman : Feb 14, 2020
Charisma News

"Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self ... Doesn't have a swelled head, Doesn't force itself on others, Isn't always 'me first,' Doesn't fly off the handle ... Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end..." -Excerpts from 1 Cor.13 MSG

[CharismaNews.com] God wants us to have holy relationships filled with intimacy and joy. Relationships make the world go 'round. We were created for intimacy with God and each other in a safe place where the glory of God can come and bless those in relationships. Many times, our relationships do not reveal this level of authenticity or joy. This can be seen in marriage many times. One way we can develop ourselves so that we have more deep and intimate relationships is to understand the power of the victorious mind. Jesus had a victorious mindset and He wants us to cultivate this as well. (Image: Pixabay)

In 1 Corinthians 15:57, the apostle Paul says, "But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ!" We have the victory and we must wash ourselves in this truth daily by changing our mind.

One way to keep our minds victorious in relationships is to change our mental focus about who we are in Christ and the positional authority we have in Him. We are seated with Christ in heavenly places spiritually and we must position ourselves here in our minds every day (Eph. 2:6). We can easily get tripped up in our relationships and fall into traps of the enemy with anger, slander, discord and lies when we endeavor to see people for who they are in a moment instead of seeing people for who they are from God's perspective. In order to do this, we must have God's perspective and be able to see from His vantage point.

In a critical moment, we must see people as who God created them to be and the purpose for their lives, instead of how they made us feel in that moment, especially if they made us feel negatively. We must join God in the proclamation of who we are and who He is and who God created them to be. Then when we are not having a good moment with a loved one or a colleague we won't react with destructive words instead of love. Pain in our soul talks, especially past pain because of our hurts in the relationship. This skews our vision and ability to see people for who God created them to be and impairs our ability to join God in this proclamation. Instead we join with satan in condemning them or cursing them.

We must have eyes to see as Jesus did. This is a training process. The one who had so much love, that when He was being arrested and the high priest lost his ear, Jesus put the ear back on the one trying to arrest Him. In Luke 22:51 (NIV), Jesus answered, "No more of this!" And He touched the man's ear and healed him.

OK, let's get real. Who does that? That is the kind of love for others we are to have, and we fall so very short of it. However, we can pray and ask God to do this in us.

We must train ourselves to respond in all relationships as Jesus did. Matthew 5:11-12 says, "Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in Heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you"... Subscribe for free to Breaking Christian News here

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